Ilmu Seks: How to get more Malays to talk openly about sex
By Zurairi AR
The Malay Mail Online9 February 2018
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(From left to right) Shayne Wyatt, Mischa Selamat, Herinza and Mussy Del C pose for a picture after an interview with Malay Mail in Kuala Lumpur. — Pictures by Yusof Mat IsaMore
KUALA LUMPUR, Feb 9 — Medical graduate Shayne Wyatt, 24, first had sex a few years ago and it was also when he caught a sexually transmitted disease (STD).
For a month, he was in pain as he visited several general practitioners, even undergoing the uncomfortable procedure of a colonoscopy — an examination where a probe with camera is inserted into the anal cavity.
And yet, he was misdiagnosed as suffering from a haemorrhoid.
“I was at the same time nervous… not just because I was sexually active, but I was having gay sex as well.
“How do I tell the doctor, ‘I slept with a man and my butt hurts right now’?” Shayne (a pseudonym) told Malay Mail, when recounting his experience.
He was also humiliated by a female Malay doctor in a public hospital who performed a rectal examination on him right in front of nurses who were tittering the entire time, before questioning why he had anal sex while pointing to his Malay-Muslim name.
He finally got treated at his university’s hospital, but only after he “self-diagnosed” himself and personally requested a specific test for gonorrhoea.
“I was 21, I was a medical student... I was privileged to know my own illness, and even then it took me one month to get proper treatment.
“What about those below 21 who had earlier sexual exposure, then got STD with no knowledge at all? Do they see a shaman? Do they just wait until the pain fades away?” he asked.
That agonising experience drove Shayne’s desire to educate the public on sex, and he found kindred spirits in magazine editor Herinza, 23, whom he met on Twitter, and student-turned-activist Mussy Del C, 22, whom he met after at an event organised by progressive Muslim group Komuniti Muslim Universal (Universal Muslim Community, or KMU).
“We wanted to create a space for LGBT people to talk about themselves, we wanted to be more inclusive,” said Herinza.
Mischa Selamat, a transgender activist who has been involved with Seksualiti Merdeka and PT Foundation since 2011, joined them a few months ago, rounding out Projek Ilmu Seks — Malay for “Sex Knowledge Project.”
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Mischa Selamat is a transgender activist, and was the last to join Projek Ilmu Seks.More
Vocabulary of sex
By their own admission, Projek Ilmu Seks is a “very gonzo” and low-cost production. Its set-up consists merely of Shayne’s Samsung Galaxy smartphone on a tripod, with the phone’s handsfree kit serving as its microphone.
But that has not been an obstacle for them and the group has already produced 10 videos of roughly 10 minutes each for the first season, addressing topics such as safe sex, consent, STDs and contraceptives.
Its most watched video, however, is still its first one — a 8:58-minute introduction by Shayne on the steps towards safe sex, which include knowing yourself and your partner, understanding consent, sex education, birth control, and protection against STDs.
The group collaborates on the draft script shared on Google Drive, before meeting after work to shoot. (Its first video was recorded in Shayne’s hostel room, Herinza’s office and a professional studio in Cyberjaya.)
“The funny thing about creating content on our side is we always write it in English… It’s easier to explain sex in English, but when we try it onscreen and talk in Malay, there is a lack of Malay vocabulary to speak about sex.
“For example, someone once asked me, ‘What is blowjob in Malay?’,” Herinza explained.
Shayne edits the video while Mussy inserts the subtitles when the video is uploaded to video sharing platform YouTube.
“For me doing the subtitle, the struggle is real… I would check Dewan Bahasa dan Pustaka’s dictionary, but there is no entry for ‘blowjob’ there either,” Mussy told Malay Mail.
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Student Mussy Del C is in charge of the videos’ subtitles… which can be a real pain.More
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